My soon to be ex-wife decided that the advice she's been getting from my serial divorcer monster-in-law is better than the EXTREMELY generous settlement offer I proposed. That offer would have left me pretty much starting over from scratch, which was preferable to ever having to deal with her again. Instead, she decided to serve me this week, and we may wind up going through a court mediator. Even at the most possible $$$ she can get from me in alimony and child support (for only one - the other is an adult now), there's no way she can sustain her living situation, unless she gets family backing (highly doubtful). Add to that - my legal fees are probably going to be really small.
The only outcome I can see for her is bankruptcy and maybe her living in a van down by the river. Dunno, and really wouldn't even walk across the street to piss on her if she were on fire.
Only outcome I can see for me is a decent chunk of change to pay off most (if not all) my debt, a modest monthly spend for the leech, and a real opportunity at helping my kids substantively with their college, putting money away for retirement, traveling, and retiring before I fucking die.
I'm happy as a pig in shit right now
Been exercising nearly every day. Weight is coming down again (WOOT!!!)
Found an acupuncturist that is doing miracles for my sciatica issues
The workshop project in the garage is on temporary hiatus, but plans are getting more and more real for doing at least a good side gig in there. It's gonna serve as a jam room, too - hoping to start getting some friends over on the reg for friday bbq & jams
Thank the maker for CBD and weed. I'll drink to that
PMA is no longer MIA... I feel like an 18 year-old about to fuck the prom queen
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sat Jul 24, 2021 2:37 pm
by RyanDistortion
Summer of Steve!
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sat Jul 24, 2021 2:51 pm
by fretless
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sat Jul 24, 2021 2:51 pm
by GuitarBilly
I've been there man. It was not easy since my son was very young and she pretty much left him with me alone and decided to go do heroin. So that sucked. But at the end of the day, it was worth it. Glad things are looking up. It will feel even better when it's actually over.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sat Jul 24, 2021 4:07 pm
by clipless bumper
congratulations!
but you are saying she would have been MUCH better off taking your offer than what she will end up with going through court?!?
I hope you are not underestimating her chances or attorney. You never know what can happen - things could go south quick.
anyway - hoping it comes out just like you are saying!!
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sat Jul 24, 2021 4:30 pm
by linthat22
Damn dude, that's a hell of a story. I'm glad you're happy, but it sounds like a stressful situation.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sat Jul 24, 2021 5:49 pm
by mortatone
GuitarBilly wrote:I've been there man. It was not easy since my son was very young and she pretty much left him with me alone and decided to go do heroin. So that sucked. But at the end of the day, it was worth it. Glad things are looking up. It will feel even better when it's actually over.
A buddy of mine who runs his own on site Bobcat mechanic service company is a single dad of 2 young kids with an ex that disappeared to do the same. He’s rockin’ it though. Handles his business on set hours so he can get to the daycare on time everyday with no help from anyone. Takes ‘em fishing on the weekends too. I don’t envy those situations but it’s also really awesome to see people succeed when things get tough.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sun Jul 25, 2021 12:49 am
by itchyfingers
FREEDOM!!!!
You deserve to be happy brother, don’t ever forget that!
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sun Jul 25, 2021 11:15 am
by skybluegary
Getting a nightmare out of your life = priceless!
Congratulations dude!
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sun Jul 25, 2021 12:07 pm
by Pepi
No idea what this would be like. 44 years married. I sure would miss my white trailer and dog though
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sun Jul 25, 2021 1:29 pm
by ajaxlepinski
Time to scope out Tinder, Hinge and Bumble.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Mon Jul 26, 2021 11:34 am
by Tortuga
RyanDistortion wrote:Summer of Steve!
fretless wrote:
I'm breathing again, bros
GuitarBilly wrote:I've been there man. It was not easy since my son was very young and she pretty much left him with me alone and decided to go do heroin. So that sucked. But at the end of the day, it was worth it. Glad things are looking up. It will feel even better when it's actually over.
Well, I stuck it out for a LOT of years, hoping that my kids would have a better childhood with me there, rather than having to have the family torn apart at a young age. Took one for the team, y'know?
It's already worth it. My relationship with my boys is at an all-time high right now, and she keeps doing everything she can to wind up in that van down by the river.
clipless bumper wrote:congratulations!
but you are saying she would have been MUCH better off taking your offer than what she will end up with going through court?!?
I hope you are not underestimating her chances or attorney. You never know what can happen - things could go south quick.
anyway - hoping it comes out just like you are saying!!
Yes - she ABSOLUTELY would have been MUCH better off taking my offer. I haven't fully calculated everything out, but I'm sure I was looking at about 20% of everything versus her getting 80%. Even in the worst possible circumstance, they can't take EVERYTHING away from me (well, not legally), and can't force me to work to turn over all my paychecks to her. Fuck that. I'm in a pretty safe spot, and IDGAF. Danger combo, I am
Rumpleforeskin wrote:Damn dude, that's a hell of a story. I'm glad you're happy, but it sounds like a stressful situation.
SO much stress behind me. I'm working with exercise, eating better, acupuncture, and cannabis. I'm driven to be unrecognizable (mentally and physically) by the end of the year.
mortatone wrote:
GuitarBilly wrote:I've been there man. It was not easy since my son was very young and she pretty much left him with me alone and decided to go do heroin. So that sucked. But at the end of the day, it was worth it. Glad things are looking up. It will feel even better when it's actually over.
A buddy of mine who runs his own on site Bobcat mechanic service company is a single dad of 2 young kids with an ex that disappeared to do the same. He’s rockin’ it though. Handles his business on set hours so he can get to the daycare on time everyday with no help from anyone. Takes ‘em fishing on the weekends too. I don’t envy those situations but it’s also really awesome to see people succeed when things get tough.
Yer buddy is a stud. Good on him
itchyfingers wrote:FREEDOM!!!!
You deserve to be happy brother, don’t ever forget that!
skybluegary wrote:Getting a nightmare out of your life = priceless!
Congratulations dude!
Fuck yes Thanks, bro!
Pepi wrote:No idea what this would be like. 44 years married. I sure would miss my white trailer and dog though
My anniversary date entered old(er) age this past March. 30 years. Fucking hell, that's a big chunk of my life, especially considering how bad the last 10-15 have been.
ajaxlepinski wrote:Time to scope out Tinder, Hinge and Bumble.
Oh, you know it. FB dating, too. And friends
But, I'm taking it slow. Gonna win this fucker, yet
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Mon Jul 26, 2021 8:32 pm
by duncan
Beauty. Now go fold it into everyone who will let you
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:56 am
by Loop Bizkit
I've been through it, man. It's hard. Keep your chin up dude! Love that you're setting personal health goals too. That'll work wonders on your emotional recovery. Diet and exercise are super good for the mind.
That said, remember everything you post here will still be here in the future. There might come a day that you look back on a thread like this and cringe a little at the overshare. Just looking out for ya dude.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2021 9:08 am
by fretless
I always cringe at my overshare lol.. still I learnt nothing Tort just wait 'till you start slapping some strange ass & put a jimmy hat on it ffs .
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2021 9:17 am
by SuperFlyinMonke
It sounds more to me like she'll never accept a settlement and you're going to be paying lawyers for years to come, eating into whatever you would have gained from taking it to lawyers.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2021 10:18 am
by neilrocks25
Tortuga wrote:My soon to be ex-wife decided...............
Great news, I hope life takes a mega turn for the better.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2021 10:21 am
by Yarbicus
Whatever happens QUIT CHANGING YOUR FUCKING HANDLE! My old man brain can't keep up.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2021 12:43 pm
by Tortuga
Yarbicus wrote:Whatever happens QUIT CHANGING YOUR FUCKING HANDLE! My old man brain can't keep up.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2021 5:01 pm
by ajaxlepinski
Tortuga wrote:
ajaxlepinski wrote:Time to scope out Tinder, Hinge and Bumble.
Oh, you know it. FB dating, too. And friends
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2021 1:34 pm
by VTM
I can't imagine going through that dude. Don't know if I could make it.
Good on you, and I wish you all the best.
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Sun Aug 01, 2021 4:20 pm
by Landshark
Tortuga wrote:My soon to be ex-wife decided that the advice she's been getting from my serial divorcer monster-in-law is better than the EXTREMELY generous settlement offer I proposed.
a guy i work with offered his ex a generous settlement they both agreed to, she accepted it, then later took him to court and got even more.
probably better off that it will be settled in court so she can't double-dip later on ...
Re: It's happening, bitc4es!!! FREEDOM!!!!
Posted: Mon Aug 02, 2021 6:44 pm
by fretless
Tort you just be ready to intake a fuck ton of drugs at the upcoming fest . We'll see how "free" you are lol .
Tort just wait 'till you start slapping some strange ass & put a jimmy hat on it ffs .
